An enmeshed relationship is one in which the partner is so much obsessed to fulfill and meet the need and demands of the other partner that they sacrifice their own goals, desires, basic needs, and feelings in the process. An enmeshed relationship can occur between romantic partners, Siblings, family members, friends, parents, and even children, lets us Understand the enmeshed relationship between romantic partners, Enmeshed romantic partners are so connected that they make all the decisions together, they hardly disagree with each other and they are responsible for managing each other problems and felling, sounds perfect but it has the toxic side also which appears in the form of fear, depression, low self-esteem, and mental sickness.
Lets us be aware of sure signs that you are in an enmeshed relationship below.
Signs you are in an enmeshed relationship
1. Overgifting
Overgifting is a sign of an enmeshed relationship, in order to receive praise and attention from the partner, one tends to overdo it, for them it’s bonding but actually, it’s fear of separation and less self-esteem.
2. Overpossisvness
An enmeshed relationship goes so overboard that you become very over-possessive about your mate, be it their health, habits, wardrobe, socializing, and whatnot. sometimes this behavior irritates your partner as they started losing freedom of choice, and space, which can impact the relationship drastically.
3. You can’t make an independent decision
In an enmeshed relationship, one doesn’t have the confidence to make an independent decision, they doubt their ability to do so which is not a good habit for a healthy relationship.
4. Feel uncomfortable when your partner is away for long
When you are in an enmeshed relationship you feel secure when your partner is around if your partner is away for long either for work or personal reasons you suddenly feel anxious and hyper and worries surround you, it’s a very uncomfortable mommet that is hard to go through.
5. Separation Anxiety
Fear of separation is one of the biggest signs of an enmeshed relationship, The very thought of it makes you vulnerable, weak, and afraid as to what will happen if your mate decides to part ways, how will you survive alone, and all sorts of negative thoughts.
6. Identity crises
When you are so into somebody you yourself become a nobody, People start losing faith in themselves as they don’t have a life outside their partner, and they tend to lose their dignity, identity, and self-esteem which is almost like a living dead.
7. less socialization
In an enmeshed relationship, one doesn’t like to be social, they feel uncomfortable, and they are happy with the small world they have created for themselves, The world starts with their partner and ends with their partner only.
8. Always Feeling guilty
You are always doing the best and right things in your relationships but you live in constant denial that you might have done something wrong and always feel guilty about it, This is one of the worst signs of an Enmeshed relationship which can lead to depression and low self-esteem
9. Calling or texting too much
Too much calling, and texting now and then for weird reasons or no reason are signs of an enmeshed relationship, you do it out of concern but sometimes your partner takes it like he is being stoked. Have faith in the relationship and give some room for others to live their life also.
10. Developing Suspicious nature
Since you are aware of the daily routine of your partner even a Slight change in the daily routine can create suspicion of something in your mind as you are not ready for any new change, Many a time it can lead to misunderstanding, self-mental trauma, and can also be one of the biggest turn-offs in a relationship
Conclusion
In an enmeshed relationship, Self-reflection can realize unhealthy patterns and habits which impact the mental status and well-being of the relationship, One must understand that sometimes changes are for the good, a relationship means sharing be it responsibilities, Partners priority should be changed to Couples priority, and demand your space but should be gentle in approach as relationships are very fragile, extreme love and unattended love both can ruin the relationships because there is a thin fine line between love and hate. Adapt flexibility over stiff relationship rules, be emotionally independent, reconnect and rediscover, and Stop feeling guilty.
Q&A
Q1. Is enmeshment toxic?
Enmeshment can be toxic as it involves people sacrificing their self-esteem and individual identity for the betterment of their partner which impacts the emotional well-being of your partner. , instead, the relationship should include trust, faithfulness, and unconditional love.
Q2. Is enmeshment a mental illness?
Extreme enmeshment is a sign of depression and anxiety which can lead to mental illness.
Q3. Can enmeshment be Good?
Yes, enmeshment can be good as feeling emotionally attached and being more caring, are suitable for a healthy relationship but extreme enmeshment can take a toxic turn as in the process the one losses their self-identity, and self-esteem which leads to mental trauma.
