What is Future Faking?
Future Faking means making false future promises and claims, it’s a high-level manipulation by people to hide their failure, and guilt and gets their evil intentions through to keep engaging their partner in their tangle and prevent them from leaving the relationship, Future faking often happens at the beginning of a new relationship or dating to attract, impress and build an instant connection. As the relationship gets older future faking becomes less effective and gets exposed from time to time. Many see Future faking as a strategy to kill any sense of abandonment in the relationship. Future faking can be intentional or unintentional, one can really mean it or one can even fake it.
Future faking behavior is difficult to understand and is often related to narcissism where signals are similar to being a narcissist. Let’s discuss the obvious signs of future faking by a partner.
11 Sign Your Partner Is Future Faking In Relationship
1. They always keep making false promises that they can’t fulfill
Future fakers are expert liars, They always make and break false promises that they can’t fulfill and expect others to believe and have faith in them as their actions and commitments always let down their partner. So beware of the overpromising behavior in relationships which signals future faking.
2. Too much love bombing
Too much excessive love bombing than the usual behavior signals that your partner wants you to believe desperately in their future talks and wants you to believe your life is more than a fairy tail, and all things are going in the right direction as planned and should not doubt of any future faking. But many look at this behavior with suspicion and believe they are being future faked.
3. Exxagerating normal things
Future fakers are expert in storytelling, they exaggerate future plans and pitch their vision in a dramatic way highlighting their benefits and making it seems like a real deal which seems interesting but in fact, it seems unrealistic and signals future faking behavior.
4. Engage in repetitive topics and plans
When your partner constantly beats the same drum with the same storyline and script again and again, and their continuous blabbering about repetitive topics acts as one of the biggest turnoffs in a relationship and feel irritated then for sure there is something fishy about it and signals future faking.
5. Don’t like to be interrupted while talking
When they are in the process of future faking which sounds irrelevant, away from reality they get offended and angry when interpreted or questioned or confronted with facts. This disturbing reaction is generally of the fear of being caught in their lies which led to the panic.
6. Want forceful endorsement of their plans
People who indulge in future faking try to impose their vision and voice on their partner and make them either forcefully acknowledge their plans or validate their school of thought whether you relate with their experience or promises or not.
7. Not ready to learn from past experiences
When reality strikes one learns from their past experiences and mistakes and evolves and changes their approach suitable to their life goals, but few people still live in the illusion of lies and assumptions and in false beliefs of their future evolution which they keep faking for the hack of it. When one is not ready to learn from the past then he is into future faking for sure.
8. Use the desires of their partner as trape
When people often use a storyline of dream runs involving their partner’s hidden desires and aspirations and trick them into believing their future plans then it is surely an old technique of future faking which makes them easy to visualize and partner fall an easy prey for them.
9. Never take accountability
When things never go as planned they never take responsibility for it and neither apologize for their behavior and actions, Instead start finding fault in their own partners’ intent and belive, and criticize them which exposes that they were future faking it all along.
10. Starts hoovering over their partner
When a person starts hoovering over their partner and emotionally blackmails them and tries several desperate attempts to pull back their partner into the relationship then future faking is one of the tricks they resort to and signals they may be future faking in relationships earlier also.
11. Are Emotionally unavailable
If your partner is Emotionally unavailable then there are high chances and signs they may occasionally resort to future faking behavior with their partner to hide their emotional unavailability, divert attention, and engage their partners in assumptions and future thinking.
The bottom line
Aspiring for a brighter future is an important relationship goal, but not delivering on that commitment is treachery. Don’t promise your partner the stars, the moon, and the whole galaxy or any unrealistic future plans that are not in sync with reality but were always meant with the intention of faking, it will always hurt people. Be genuine in future goals, be true to themselves and the relationships, introspect their actions, and realize the need and importance of trust, responsibility, and sincerity to make the relationship feasible. Convert your actions of future faking into future making.
Q&A
Q1. Why do partners resort to future faking in Relationships?
1. High Insecurity in relationships drives them to fake the future.
2. Hiding their failure and incompetence of the pressure to cope with relationship duties.
3. To impress their mate.
4. To protect their ego.
5. To gain control and power in the relationships
6. To prevent their partner from leaving the relationship.
7. Narcissist approach towards relationships.
8. To keep the spirits high in the relationship though for a short time.
9. To delay a commitment endlessly
10. To avoid or end a conflict temporarily or permanently.
11. When they are emotionally unavailable
12. When they resort to Hoovering around their partner.
Q2. How do you respond to future faking in relationships?
1. Try not to fall prey to the fake emotional appeal and false promises of the partner.
2. Be realistic and experiential in approach and give your partner a reality check instead.
3. Confront the future faking behavior with relevant questions and discussions.
4. Cut short repetitive discussions and save yourself from the emotional trauma.
5. Use diverse tactics and try discussing different topics and issues with your partner for a change.
6. Stop communication for a short period if the future faking turns into a compulsive disorder.
7. Regaing your self-confidence, power, and control in the relationships.
8. Bring close family and friends into the picture to bridge the miscommunication gap and problem realization.
9. Test their promise’s progress by frequent updates and evaluations which make them accountable and responsible for future promises to make.
10. If they don’t mend their ways, there are many ways you can mend yours, like considering a breakup or a divorce Though it will be a tough call to make.
Q3. What is hoovering in relationships?
Hoovering is a type of emotional abuse in which a person starts being manipulative and tries all sorts of tricks like future faking, emotional blackmail, and stalking to suck the victim back into their toxic relationship cycle.
Q4. Is Future Faking Emotional Abuse?
Playing and manipulating human emotions are worse forms of abuse and when you indulge in future faking you crush your partner’s beliefs, aspirations, emotions, and faith in the relationship and are seen as emotional abuse.
Q5. What do you call a person who never keeps their promise?
A person who never keeps their promise is called a reneger. Various words like liar, unreliable, Untrustworthy, Promise breaker, and flake are also used for that person.